October 29, 2025 - You Become What You Behold
We Become Like Him When We See Him Clearly
October 29, 2025 Men’s Event
You Become What You Behold
I wanted to bring us back to a simple but life-shaping truth: we become what we behold. Everything in our lives—our choices, our character, our leadership, our relationships—flows from how we see God and how we see ourselves in Him. As we talked through the different areas of life where men are called to lead, I emphasized that real transformation doesn’t start with willpower or trying to fix ourselves. It starts with intentionally looking at a specific aspect of God’s character until it reshapes our hearts.
We walked through how this applies to leading ourselves, leading in our families, leading in the body of Christ, and stepping into the assignments God has placed in our lives. The conversations and insights in the room kept coming back to this: the more clearly we see God—His patience, His strength, His wisdom, His provision, His righteousness—the more naturally we reflect those same qualities. Tonight was about resetting our gaze, identifying where we want to grow, and choosing which facet of God we will behold so that His life can be formed in us.
1. The Core Principle: You Become What You Behold
One of the strongest themes of the night was that transformation doesn't begin with effort—it begins with vision. Clint emphasized that spiritual growth happens not through willpower but through beholding God clearly. When you see Him as He truly is, something shifts in you. As he said, “Real change, real transformation comes when you see Him clearly—then all that other stuff follows.”
Proverbs 23:7 — “As he thinks in his heart, so is he.”
“You live out your self-image, and your self-image must be shaped by who God has made you to be.”1 John 3:2 — “We will be like Him, for we will see Him as He is.”
“There’s a principle here—you become like Him when you see Him as He is.”
Your life will always move in the direction of the God you behold.
2. What Are You Intentionally Beholding?
Clint challenged every man in the room with this core question:
“What aspect of God are you intentionally beholding so that you are being conformed into it?”
We talked about how our struggles—anger, anxiety, inconsistency, fear—are often the result of beholding the wrong thing: our failures, our limitations, or our past. Instead, transformation comes from intentionally fixing our gaze on a facet of God that reshapes our hearts.
3. Leading Yourself Well — Beholding God for Personal Transformation
Men opened up about areas where they want to grow—disciplines, prayer life, hearing God, physical health, purity, and consistency. Clint reminded us that trying harder won’t produce lasting change. Instead, he said:
“You’re not trying to become something different—you’re trying to believe the truth of who you now are in Christ.”
If you battle fear → behold God as Protector and Jesus as Prince of Peace.
If you struggle with sin → behold your righteousness in Christ.
If you feel unqualified → behold Jesus as the One who equips you.
Your behavior always grows from your beliefs, and your beliefs are shaped by what you behold.
4. Leading Your Family — Showing Them the God You See
Clint explained that we parent and love others from whatever picture of God we carry within. “You treat people according to the Father you think you have.” If we behold God as patient, we become patient. If we behold His compassion, we parent with compassion. If we behold His tenderness, our homes will feel safe under our leadership.
Many men admitted how quickly frustration or busyness can override intentional leadership. The takeaway was clear: your family will experience the version of God you behold.
5. Leading in the Body of Christ — Beholding His Calling, Not Your Limitations
Several men shared callings burning in their hearts—evangelism, healing ministry, discipleship, encouragement. Clint pushed us not to wait for perfect conditions:
“Quit waiting. You might not jump to step P, but you can do A, B, and C.”
We talked about how hesitation often comes from beholding our weaknesses instead of beholding God’s empowerment. When you behold Jesus as the One who equips and sends, boldness follows.
6. How to Build Your Growth Plan Around Beholding
Instead of focusing on fixing ourselves, we were encouraged to build every growth plan around beholding God. For each area—personal life, family, ministry—we identify:
A growth need
A facet of God that speaks to that need
Scriptures that reveal this facet
Daily intentional beholding
Action flowing from identity
Clint described this as spiritual seed work:
“See Him clearly, and it’s like a seed—spiritual, transformative fruit begins to happen.”
7. Final Takeaway
The night closed with the reminder that transformation flows from revelation, not pressure.
We become what we behold.
We reflect the God we see.
Clint ended with this challenge:
“Where do you need to see God clearly? That’s where transformation will happen.”
Leave with one clear commitment: intentionally behold a specific aspect of God’s character so that His image becomes the pattern for your transformation. Choose one area of personal life, one area in your family, and one area in your calling, and ask, “Who is God to me in this area?” Then fix your gaze on that facet of Him—because as you behold Him, you will become like Him, and your life will naturally begin to reflect His quality, His character, and His purpose.
